Indications
Is this therapy right for you?
It is for you if...
You want to strengthen your relationship before a major step: marriage, children, moving in together.
The arrival or departure of children changed your dynamic and you can't find a way to reconnect or redefine yourselves.
You keep having the same arguments over and over and can't find a way out.
You feel emotionally distant: you're together but disconnected.
Something happened that broke your trust and you can't find a way to repair or move forward.
You're considering separating and want to bring closure under the best possible conditions.
It is not for you if...
You need legal mediation, arbitration or divorce management. I can point you to the right resource.
There is active, recurring physical or psychological violence of a structural nature.
The process
Rhythm, depth and method
In the first session I carry out an assessment by exploring the couple's history with both of you. I take the side of what I believe can support the relationship: I work with it as a third entity -- something that belongs to and is the responsibility of both, and that with support and commitment can transform for the benefit of both.
We weave a conversation where the goal is not to convince the other person whose pain matters more, but to understand how the couple is hurting from the way it is functioning, and what each partner can do to tend to and repair the friction in the bond.
Sessions are typically biweekly, lasting approximately one hour. During times of crisis we can consider weekly sessions. We can meet in person in Napoles or online with the same depth.
Evolution
What changes as the process unfolds
From argument to relational listening
Recurring arguments are not the problem -- they are the symptom. When you can name what is happening in your body in the moment of conflict, it becomes possible to interrupt the cycle.
A relationship that holds you
The shared vocabulary, the tools to navigate conflict and the trust that you can get through hard things together -- you take all of that with you. The relationship as refuge, resource and safe place.
Recovering intimacy
Emotional distance is built through small disconnections. As the process unfolds, you begin to recognize each other again: knowing what hurts, what provides security, what you need -- and asking for it without falling into an endless argument.
Your first session
Step by step
One of you reaches out via WhatsApp. We clarify any questions about scheduling and payment. Confirmation 48 hours in advance.
The first session is a mutual interview. We define what you expect from the process and set realistic expectations.
The first 3 to 6 sessions are an adjustment period: we calibrate how the space feels for each of you.
We schedule in two-month periods with clear goals and constantly recalibrate progress.
Cost per session
$98 USD
MXN · Couples session
Advance payment by bank transfer, or cash on the day of the session.
We learned to communicate better, to feel confident expressing our differences in a respectful way.
M + R
Patricio always supported us and created a wonderfully harmonious environment where we could open up and talk with respect.
Nay
Approaches
How I work in session
Systemic Family Therapy
The backbone of my relational work. It focuses on interactions as the visible expression of the bond's health. It integrates resources from Gottman, Sue Johnson (EFT) and postmodern models.
Somatic Experiencing (SE)
It pays attention to the nervous system responses of each partner and the dynamic between you. It helps regulate what the body holds before it can be processed with words.
IFS -- Internal Family Systems
It works with the internal "parts" each partner brings to the relationship. When each person recognizes their parts, they stop projecting them onto the other.
Core Energetics / Exceptional Marriage
A couples model derived from Core Energetics. It works with the body, emotions and relational patterns to facilitate free self-expression in a context of connection and safety.
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